As a young woman who is genuinely trying her best to find her way in this world, I am at a loss. I struggle/ struggled figuring out how I am going to get to my end goal for my life. Some of my goals for life are to just be financially free, happy, at peace, and just thriving with no regrets. I didn’t know the slightest bit of how I would get to that place, especially because I also knew I didn’t want to go to college anymore due to the neverending debts of a college education. In my opinion I just feel the amount of money I would spend on 4 years of a college education will never match or exceed my income amount over the rest of my life. The college I was attending cost about $30k a year to attend and I would have to do that for 4 years, but once I was out of school and graduated I would still probably be working a basic start up job to help me survive. Slowly having to work my way up the corporate ladder or still having to struggle to find a place in this world for me.
All of my family expected me to go to college and finish it out, which I planned on doing too, but since COVID-19 took over my second semester of m
y freshman year of college, those plans quickly changed. During this time I realized college was not something I truly wanted to do, I only did it because it was expected of me. I went to a college preparatory school from when I was about 10 years old, all the way until I was a full adult capable of making my own decisions. Growing up in that environment convinced me very early on to attend college and to get a degree, but while in that environment no one really talked about what to do if you don’t know what you want to major in. Or even if you went in knowing what you want to do but then decide to change it. The older I got the more I realized college is not for everybody, and I don’t mean not everyone is able to complete it. I mean college is not for everyone to be the best version of themselves, it can do more harm than good for some people.
I feel as for myself, the little time I spent in college was just enough time to realize there is more to life than what school has fed me, and has fed a lot of us. I especially feel this way because I have also realized the education system has failed us in so many ways. There are a multitude of things in life that school didn’t teach us, and that is part of the reason so many adults are focused on survival rather than their happiness. Some people stay in jobs that make them unhappy and others constantly bounce around until they find something they truly love doing. The ones who are just trying to find what they love are struggling doing so because some schools never taught us how to find what we love doing.
Overtime I’ve learned that going out and experiencing the world all it has to offer, good and bad, can help you decide what you really want to do. You’ll find things you like and things you don’t like. You’ll meet amazing people and see amazing places, and they can help lead you on your path. The hard part is finding something you want to do for the rest of your life. Luckily you don’t have to find something you want to do for the rest of your life, only something you want to do for the moment. We constantly grow and change as people so the things we once liked in our younger years may no longer serve our older selves.
If I had any advice to give to myself it would be this… Wake up and smell the roses and focus on today and today only, because one day you'll miss the smell you overlooked time and time again.
"Find something that you love doing in the moment and enjoy it, if you live too much into the future you'll miss the beauty of your present."
Signing Off,
-Clueless
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